We are all unique individuals with a rich tapestry of experiences, interests and values. Our hobbies, passions, family lives, and personal stories are equally, if not more, defining than our careers.

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So, what could be the alternative? Instead of defaulting to a career question, start conversations by asking about a person’s interests, recent adventures, opinions on current events or what book they’re currently engrossed in.

Not only does this shift the discussion away from being career-centric, but the responses are invariably more authentic, vibrant and telling. This approach not only fosters a deeper connection but also celebrates the diversity of experiences and perspectives. A conversation about a recent hiking trip or a newfound love for painting offers a glimpse into who they really are, not just what they do to pay the bills.

This shift can also be a step towards reducing the stress associated with professional status. In a society where career achievements often dictate social standing, detaching personal worth from job titles can alleviate the pressure to constantly ‘succeed’ in traditional terms.

Focusing on someone outside their career encourages a culture where people feel valued for who they are, not just what they do, fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance.

So next time you meet someone, skip the “what do you do for work?” question. You’ll find that by doing so, your conversations will become more engaging, your connections deeper, and your understanding of others more profound. We are, after all, so much more than our 9-to-5s.

Téa Angelos is an entrepreneur, author, speaker and founder of Smart Women Society, an online education company providing innovative products and tools for women to grow their independence with money, career, wellbeing and love.

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